Thursday, December 16, 2010

TLC's A Baby Story...


I am in love with TLC's A Baby Story. I actually only caught a few episodes before I had Riley, but now I DVR it and watch it daily. I cry at EVERY birth....the experience of having a baby never changes, it is always amazing. I think I cry also as I see these women go through all the pain and frustration. Ugh, childbirth is HARD! But oh so amazing!

I cried at every birth I watched before giving birth, and now after. But was is interesting, I did not cry when I gave birth. I cried a lot during the labor from the excruciating pain of the contractions....but I did not cry when I had Riley. I think it was so surreal I was just in awe! I like to think I was just taking it all in without losing it emotionally.

Whatever the reason for my tears or no tears, I get it now. I had a baby and I understand what women go through to give birth. It is crazy...Women Rock!

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Smiling = Breathtaking!


Your baby's smile is like nothing in the World.

Enough said!

Body after Baby!


Ok, I know I just gave birth 7 weeks ago, and I am quite content with where my body has transgressed since then not to mention pregnancy. Nursing has definitely helped drop the weight, and now that I have clearance to start working out again, the new year will bring a new focus on getting back in shape.

All of that being said, I am still surprised at a few things on my post baby body!

Number 1: My chest has grown astronomically with nursing. I will just say this, I had to buy yet more bras after baby. I should have invested in a bra company or the Pump Station.

Number 2: I like leggings...I never wore leggings before pregnancy and now they are all I live in. They are comfortable and since I am top heavy, they are slimming for now. And I can wear them with a lot of things. Another thing I should have invested in.

Number 3: My hips have moved...surprise, surprise. I am not sure why I thought this would not happen. I finally broke down and bought a new pair of jeans...I cannot live in leggings forever. My main frustration, I spent a ton of money on jeans right before I got pregnant..and I will get back into them one day!

Number 4: I have become a fan of Tunics...do you have any good recos for places I can buy them?

Number 5: Nothing from before fits...so I keep shelling out money for clothes...oh well, I do love to buy new stuff!!!

Pix...my new Hard Tail soft as can be sweatshirt...American Apparel, Michael Stars, Victoria Secret and Planet Blue are helping me find a new wardrobe.

A few Baby Moments so Far!











For the most part the past 7 weeks have been wonderful...we have had lots of visitors, and Tim and I have eased into being parents relatively smoothly. Riley is a very good baby...she sleeps regularly up to 3 to 4 hours at night and part of the day. She has even slept up to 6 hours one night so far. She feeds very well - she had gained up to 3 pounds at her first months appointment. She does not get too fussy, except during growth spurts and at night some times.

We have taken her out to lunch and dinners including Bazaar, Ceconnis, Cafe Del Rey and more. She has done really well at all of them!

During her 3 week growth spurt was the hardest part for me. She had a lot of cluster feeding going on and still cried.

I have had just a few days of feeling kind of blue...the first day Tim went to work and a few other days where I had been with her for 12 hours at home without leaving the house. Now, as she gets older, it has been a little easier to go out during the day for a few hours.

I have started back at post-natal yoga...which is awesome. I can bring her with and I get some excercise while being around other moms and babies. I am starting to feel a little more connected to the World. I hate to say this but Thank God for Facebook...it is my main lifeline to the Real World.

I never want to leave her ever!!! I get nervous thinking about going back to work!

I have had a few funny moments including a diaper blow out at the yoga place and having to nurse her on the floor of the bathroom stall at the Baby Gap! I surprisingly do not freak out bad, I am laughing at most of these moments which is good for controlling nature! I am liking what motherhood is doing to me!!!

So much fun and so worth the hard work!

Nursing....I like it!

I am shocked that I am enjoying nursing as much as I am. It is a bonding time that only I can experience with Riley. I am lucky that it has worked really well for Riley and I...I am interested to see how long I do it! My initial goal was 3 months...we shall see.

No pix needed for this post.

Home - A new life!






I remember that ride home from the hospital...it was a BEAUTIFUL day in LA, warm and sunny. My parents had bought groceries for us, we had lots of flowers and balloons to welcome us home and I felt a new sense of awareness wash over me. Nothing looked the same...Santa Monica Boulevard, the Pier, our condo. Everything was different and better!

Tim and I just stared at Riley all day that day, we could not imagine going back to work and leaving her! It was a wonderful day!

The First Night





We finally got Riley around midnight on the 25th of October....she was born around 9:20 PM that night. Tim and I marvel at our baby and listen to the nurse as she runs through the dos and don'ts with her during the night. Then she leaves....Whoa....she gave us a 10 minute instructions run down and then she is gone. And we are left with this baby! What do we do now???

Thankfully we can call the nurse during the night if we need anything. I need to try and nurse - which Baby Riley figures out right away luckily. This is one smart little girl. But I am all bandaged up from the labor...which leaves you definitely sore and tired and is quite a process. My husband jumps right in to take the lead on taking care of Riley. He is wonderful...We finally fall asleep around 2 in the morning.

That first cry from your baby in the middle of the night is quite startling...you just extended your body beyond comprehension, you are groggy and tired and this little being starts wailing right next to you. Believe me, I jumped up right away. So did Tim. Little Riley had a dirty diaper and she was not happy. Tim got up and changed her right away since I was laid up in the bed! I remember this moment so clearly because Riley was telling us how she felt and Tim took care of her right away. I went on to feed her twice that night and the nurse told me she was going to be a feeder....she was correct on that one.

We had a few issues figuring out the feeding over the next day or so given the small amount of milk available - Riley got frustrated and would cry so we gave her a little formula in the hospital but overall, she took to breast feeding pretty instinctively.

On Tuesday, we just spent the day getting used to this little girl who had entranced us from the moment of birth. We had a few visitors, toasted her birth with some good champagne and we could not wait to get her home. We left the hospital, with good signs of health for both mommy and baby on Wednesday and headed home for the first time! I felt a little sad leaving, mainly because the birth while taxing and hard, was such an amazing experience. It felt bittersweet almost.

Labor...Not Fun!






So, I was due around October 20th. I ended up being a week late! We tried everything to get our baby out, but she did not want to come out! My mother had been here for a week taking me out every day to keep me busy so I would not lament over the baby not coming out. No matter what - those last few weeks of pregnancy were tough. I was just tired, sore, big, swollen and anxious. Very anxious. Not knowing when it is going to happen is the hardest part. Having people waiting for the baby, also makes it worse. So, when my Doctor gave me the option of scheduling an induction after waiting for a week, we went ahead and did it.

I checked in to St John's in Santa Monica on Sunday, October 24th at 9 PM. The plan was to start me on Cervidil to soften my cervix...reason for this natural inducing drug was because I was only 1 CM the week I was due and still when I checked in to the hospital. You have to have Cervidil in your system for 12 hours to get it to work, so my parents and Tim and I went to the hospital and the process started. I was very nervous that it would not work and they would send me home. Thankfully since I was a week late, they would get that baby out now. So, Tim and I sleep very little and wait for morning to see if the Cervidil works. I wake at 3 AM or so and stay awake, reading my new Ken Follett book on my iPad. Morning finally comes and I am not supposed to eat much, so I have a little egg and toast. The nurse comes in to take the Cervidil out around 10 AM, and check me out. Unfortunately, I am still only 1 CM and the nurse tells me my cervix is posterior, which means it is facing toward the back. This seems to be the problem keeping me from opening up. But thankfully, my cervix is soft so they decide to start the Pitocin, which is the main inducing drug. I am ready...my parents have shown up and the nurse tells us there is a strong possibility that the baby will no come for another 24 hours or so. I decide to be patient, at least I am at the hospital and the process has started!!!

Pitocin starts around 10:30 AM and by 11:00 AM my parents and Tim notice my contractions on the monitor getting really big. "Do you feel that", they ask....I say no...a few minutes later, I do....and they are coming quickly and painfully! The pitocin - combined with the cervilix really kick starts my labor and the contractions begin to be extremely painful. Within the hour, I am crying uncontrollably and buckling over in intense pain. Tim is trying to calm me down, the nurse comes in to say breathe through it, and I want to smack her and say, Screw you!!! Breathe through it my butt!!!! I have never experienced such intense pain in my life....finally, another nurse comes in to check on me and says patients are coming out of their room asking if I am OK because my crys are extremely audible!!! I am embarassed but the pain is out of control. My mom asks for a pain reliever - we are trying to wait to hit 5 CM to get the epidural - but they tell me they try not to give narcotics if they can. So I say, fine, I will wait...30 minutes later I scream for the epidural, I don't care how far along I am....They do not put up a fight and get the process moving. Unfortunately, the anesthesiologist is busy so it is going to take some time. My original nurse comes in to check on my, and I am now 3 CM and my water breaks...on its own! Not fun...I was in so much pain I thought my uterus and the baby were going to fall out right there and then. I was scared to be honest. They decide to turn off the pitocin since I am in so much pain....and the contractions keep coming on their own at the same intensity....finally, around 2:30 PM the epidural guy comes in and I am ready to kiss the ground he walks on...Of course, nothing is easy during my labor and the guy cannot get the damn needle in my back. He is praising the strength in my back due to my doing yoga and I just want to fall off the bed and crawl into a little hole. Tim is trying to hold me as the contractions come fast and hard and a guy is putting a needle in my back...super fun. Finally he has me lay down and it goes in...ten more minutes and finally my 3 hour pain ordeal calms down. I am so tired at this point from fighting the pain and crying and the lack of food that I want to sleep for a week.

As the epidural does its job, my labor moves quickly and I am around 5 CM and moving. I try to nap and my body starts shaking...I am getting the Baby Quakes as they call them, which is due to the transitions coming so quickly in my labor. I start feeling really cold. My Doctor comes in with a nurse to check on me and the baby - her heartbeat has gone up. They find out I have a fever of 101. Not good....they give me a tylenol...which I quickly throw-up. Did I mention I have never been in a hospital...never had an IV in me...never took heavy drugs...my body is in shock. The tylenol has a mild affect, my fever goes down but they are worried about the baby. Finally around 7:30 I am almost 10 cm and they say we will start pushing in the next 30 minutes. It takes another hour and finally we start pushing.

So, I am thinking pushing is easy...I feel no pain and I am in good shape. Did you know they make you hold your breath three times in a row for 10 seconds each every time you push....yeah, well, I am not in good cardio shape and with my fever, exhaustion and no food I quickly become tired. By 30 minutes of pushing, I want to stop. I throw up again from the constant ice chips I am eating...Tim, my mom and 5 people are in the room...5 people cheering me on pisses me off so I tell my mom and Tim to stop talking. I need quiet to focus. I even turned off the mix I had playing on my iPad. I swear I pass out twice from the exhaustion...

Finally 1 hour and 20 minutes into pushing, Doctor Pushkin tells me this will be the last one. So I am encouraged (BTW, I was told I was a GREAT pusher - very strong - thanks to Yoga again, but I had trouble concentrating, my brain got in the way, which is typical for me). And she was right, baby Riley comes out on the next set of pushes and it was the most amazing moment of my life. So surreal...I wish I could have bottled it up and kept it in my pocket because it was so cool. I even touched the head during the process....just amazing.

But Baby Riley was having some problems, she was not really crying so the baby doctors and respiration specialist were concerned. They spent a while trying to clear her lungs and had to take her to the nursery to ensure they could clear her. I threw up again after they gave me some juice concoction that after no food was not good for my tummy...I would rather have had a cosmo at the point=) Anyway, Tim goes with them to the nursery and they quickly fix me up. I am worried...what could be going on....Tim is texting me to tell me how things are going...Finally, they get her cleared and after 3 hours I finally get to hold my baby!

After all of that - 24 hours - I had Riley in my arms and life began a new for us!

Mommyhood - I love it


Well, I am finally starting this blog dedicated to my life as a mom. I have been a mom to Riley Christine Duffy for 7 weeks and I can truly say it has been the happiest time of my life. There is nothing I have done in my life that compares to having this baby. For all of the ups and downs of pregnancy, and my not so positive attitude when I first started out, having this baby definitely made everything worth it. She is awesome and I am enjoying every minute of this time, including the late night feedings...well for the most part! I am even looking forward to having a second....if that is what God and the universe intends. But I plan to spend some time enjoying Riley and my wine=)